Kids Who Care: Tip 1
Raising kids can be tough, and raising kids who care can be an even bigger challenge requiring more parent time, care, education and responsibility. Over the next few weeks we will be looking at “Ten Tips for Raising Kids Who Care,” an article written by Richard Weissbourd in The Parents We Mean to Be and published in Psychology Today.
Today, we will uncover and explore the first tip given by Weissbourd, and then we’ll continue on with the other nine tips in the weeks to follow. Mr. Daddy will be putting in his “two cents,” sharing his wisdom and knowledge from being a daddy to six kids over of the past 25 years.
The tips Weissbourd offers throughout his article encourage a shift in parenting that will take “the balance from a ‘self-esteem and happiness focused’ parenting approach toward caring and responsibility as well as for developing key social and emotional capacities in children that are a foundation for both morality and a lasting well-being.”
Tip number one, according to Weissbourd is: “Instead of telling your children, ‘The most important thing is that you are happy,’ tell them, ‘The most important thing is that you are kind, and that you are responsible for others.’”
As a parent, the bottom line seems to be that you want your children to be happy, but underlying that happiness, we want our children to be respectful, successful, responsible, knowledgeable, independent individuals.
Mr. Daddy says:
Weissbourd is onto something here. If we tell our children over and over again that the most important thing is that they are happy, we aren’t necessarily leading them to that happiness in an appropriate manner; nobody will actually be happy if they walked all over everyone and treated people poorly on the way. But, if we, like Weissbourd suggests, always tell our children that the most important thing is that they are kind and responsible for others then we are providing them with the skills needed to achieve the ultimate goal of happiness. By being a kind, genuine person and treating others with respect and kindness, our children will ultimately be able to lead lives of happiness and fulfillment.
Every parent should strive to raise a child who will be a positive addition to society and beyond. Thanks to Weissbourd and Mr. Daddy, you can learn a few tips and tricks-of-the-trade that will help you begin your journey through successful parenting.
Stay tuned next week to learn Weissbourd’s second tip on raising a child who cares.
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